Being true to yourself is something you can’t do if you are preoccupied with the validation and approval of others.
The Lie Of Perfectionism
Perfectionism masquerades as a positive thing, the drive to create something faultless, something that is the best it can be. Those are positive traits, surely?
When you place all your faith in the validation of others, you’ll always lose – because you can’t control other people’s reaction to you.
There is a fine line between perfectionism and procrastination.
Sooner or later you need to take action because the worst thing you can do is nothing – then you fail by default.
In reality, perfection is a fallacy.
Nothing can ever be pefect, no matter how hard you try and how much you work on something.
Perfection is an ever-shifting standard, therefore, if you aim for perfection you’re setting yourself up to fail.
Whenever you produce anything there will always be elements you could do better.
When you allow yourself to get stuck in a negative spiral, worrying about what you could be doing differently, instead of enjoying your results, you’re devaluing your own achievements.
Perfectionism creeps up on us. We learn it over time as a response to the values of others, falling into the trap of what it ‘should’ be.
The fear of being judged for not getting it right cripples us into inaction.
Because it’s a habit we learn over time it takes time to overcome.
It’s more important to take pleasure in the process of discovery than it is to ‘get it right’.
To accept and embrace the journey, the opportunity, and the lessons you learn from simply getting stuff done!
The human desire to learn is not just about getting the ‘right answer’. It’s about having fun along the way, enjoying the experience of creating.
The first blog post you publish won’t be your best because you are still learning, and that’s OK.
Remind yourself that the chances are, hardly anyone will see your early attempts because you’ve not built up the momentum comes with long-term production of volumes of writing. You don’t yet have an audience, because it takes time to develop one.
Besides, at the end of the day, there is nothing to stop you from going back to your old blogs and updating them when you learn something new.
Forget being right or being the best, your blogs are a journey not a destination.
Have fun with them and find the joy in being able to express yourself in your own voice.
Brush off the doubts of perfectionism. Accept you are human, you are fallible, and you are always going to be learning new things.
Every day is a school day.
Every experience is an education.
Instead of focusing on the end result, focus on enjoying the process and learning new skills.
Be open to new opportunities and ideas.
As perfectly imperfect as you are!
Forget ‘perfect’ and embrace creative freedom.
As Master Yoda once said, “Do or do not do, there is no try!”
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